Having a family that only has love and bonding is everyone's dream, especially the elderly. They want to see all their sons and daughters living in harmony with each other. It is the inner peace within the family that is more important. Therefore a strong and happy family should be the goal of all. Families who live happily together share a very strong bond.
Such families have members who are thick and thin to each other, is it happiness or tragedy. They share every moment of life together and support each other. They can be seen laughing together or even playing together and enjoying together. Thus they are there for each other in every circumstance of life. What is more important to them is trust and love rather than money.
It is the parents who are the people leading the family. It is entirely up to the parents what they teach their children. They are the ones who can build strong bonds within the members. Children should be taught from childhood that they should live in harmony with other family members and respect their elders.
Children often learn from parental activities. Thus it is the responsibility of the parents to form a strong relationship and bond between different members of the family. They should take responsibility to mold these bonds. A healthy family is one that supports and nurtures each person in that family. A healthy family, with good family values, is able to use the available resources and live together in a healthy way, and keep the bond strong
A family envisaged by a happy married couple allows other people in that family to be able to express themselves more freely. They will not be afraid to speak, and what they say will not be filtered through uncertainty problems. A blissful marriage seems to set the tone in the home, and is the foundation for a healthy family. The entire healthy, happy environment around that family will spread to the community and allow that family to reach out and help others. A healthy, happy family does not separate itself from the rest of the world, but enjoys it to nurture nature.
Some important elements of a healthy family system with good family values include :
· Parents,
· Harmony,
· Flexibility and
· Communication
Parents - Parents in a strong family set the tone. And for example there should be good role models and leads. Parents should be afraid to reach out to the community, extended family and friends and be able to teach their children the importance of doing so. This sense of community will become a big part of who their children are. When parents work together or together with the community to solve problems, the next generation will step in and retain these skills.
Harmony - The ability to live and live together. Cohesion in the family is a feeling, a feeling of being loved, and being nurtured by that family. There must always be a balance between being together and separating, no matter how close to the family. A sense of support and confidence from the family allows a person to develop his personality. Spending quality time brings and keeps a family together with commitment to each family member.
Flexibility - The ability to change for each given situation while maintaining core family values. If there is no structure in a family, it will become chaotic and create a very unhealthy environment for all the members of that family. With structure, there should be some flexibility within the family. Resentment arises when parents are very strict and have no flexibility. . Although the parents are in charge, all members develop the ability to cope with stress, and lead at times. The family must work towards avoiding stressful situations by working together to solve problems, blame each other, criticize and find fault. A strong spiritual foundation in families appears to be healthy and indeed appears in times of stress, to work together through each situation.
Communication - Failure to communicate can virtually destroy a family. Healthy marriage and parenthood, family closeness, flexibility, spending time together and spirituality are all things that smooth the progress of communication within a family. All members should feel a freedom within the family to express themselves freely.
Of course, there will always be problems at home. Sometimes you get scolded and don't get your way, eventually you will get mad at your parents. But this is normal. It is important that everyone understands each other in order to live harmoniously and happily.
Here are some steps children can do to maintain our closeness within our families:
Time is the key - you can live with your parents but there are instances when you don't get to see them often. Always try to check how much time you have spent with your family. Maybe they are a little busy or maybe you are ready for your activities in advance. Ask your parents to plan activities on their schedule and free time. Always spend time during meals at home. Enjoy each other's company through entertaining and fun activities.
Talk to each other - It is useless to stay together until you talk and communicate with each other. You can share whatever you want. You can tell them what happened during the day or at school. Share your experience. You can also share your problems. It can be difficult at first because you feel fear or embarrassment but just talk. They will definitely understand you and help you.
Care - In a family, it should not be a one-sided relationship. Actually, it is the responsibility of our parents to take care of us. But sometimes, it is payback time. You take care of them. You can prepare a simple snack for the family. Make each other's day happy with a hug or a kiss. Help with household chores and do some work for them. Most importantly, respect your parents.
Make your parents proud - make them happy by helping them at home. If you do well in school, you can make them proud. Follow the rules at home and anywhere and avoid trouble.
Eating Meals - Eating together with all members at the same table and at the same time can create an environment that can make communication between all members possible.
One should not compare the family to someone else as it may make the situation more intractable than solving it.
It is very important for families to make good decisions to teach their children. One of the easiest ways to do this. If you make good decisions in the early years and continue through your teenage years, your children will see and they themselves become good decision makers
A healthy family will benefit the entire community. Your children will grow up and lead healthy, productive lives and have healthy families of their own, who learn from strong family values as you grow up.